Love in a relationship can last long if you work on it. You! takes a look...
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Love in a relationship can last long if you work on it. You! takes a look...
Love is a complicated phenomenon. Why you ask? Because it is something that needs constant effort. The few first months of the relationship are always wonderful and you feel like you are on cloud nine. You are happy all the time and continuously texting and calling your partner. But then gradually fights, arguments and misunderstandings set in. Suddenly, you don't feel the same anymore. A couple of years down the road and your relationship is dead. Who do you think is to blame for that? It's you and your partner. Yes, relationships have never been a piece of cake and it takes efforts from both parties to make them work.
Here are some steps towards making your love last:
Be thoughtful
Initially you tend to do things for your partner as your excitement level is actually high. But a few years down the road, you feel there is no room to do something extra as by that time you are sure that he is not going anywhere. However, doing special things for your partner on an off again will revive your chemistry. For instance, leave a loving note tucked into your partner's pocket, arrange a special dinner on an otherwise ordinary night, make a playlist made up with his favourite songs etc. These thoughtful acts will melt his heart, and in return you will be showered with affection. Do something special on a regular basis. If you are not married yet, call him every day just to catch up for a few minutes. Such gestures inform the other person that he is extremely important to you. This in return strengthens the bond of love and keeps the chemistry alive.
Engage in lots of eye gazing
New couples seem to do this naturally, but don't drop this strong bonding behaviour just because the relationship has progressed. Look into each other's eyes while talking and during dinner. Believe it or not, eyes are a doorway to the soul and this connection will help you understand each other more.
Tell your partner what you like
The fact is, relationships are never meant to be a puzzle and we can't just figure each other out without sharing. Your partner won't understand you till you open your heart and let them in. Telling them how to make you happy will actually make them feel good and more effort will be put into overcoming the relationship problems.
Do something great for someone your partner loves
If you show kindness and love for someone he loves, you will earn major points. When you enter a relationship, you also enter a relationship with all his family and friends. Show him that the people who are important to him are important to you too.
Express away
Don't be afraid to give voice to your love. Tell him how you feel. Write a loving note or poem. Lovers have been doing this from the beginning of time because it works.
Boost the chemicals of love
There are many brain chemicals that go into the feeling of love and attachment. Oxytocin is known as the bonding, trust, and cuddle hormone. Oxytocin is enhanced by watching romantic movies together, holding hands, cuddling, and long, loving eye contact. Being too busy to indulge in physical activities pushes couples apart.
Focus on what you have
Remember why you fell in love, why you chose your beloved. Focus on what you have, and it will expand. Appreciate what you have and you will begin to value it more. Lastly, stop looking at other couples and how happy they are. Their relationship is different than yours and you have no idea how many mountains they have climbed to make it work with each other.
Apologize and forgive
When we look our beloved in the eyes with a genuine expression of apology and/or forgiveness, it builds a strong foundation of safety, deep trust, understanding and resiliency.
