I am sure if her parents agree to your proposal, she won’t object. So, muster some courage and conquer your true love....
I can’t get over her
Salam Guru,
I have been reading Us magazine since I was 18, and am a great fan of your column. I am a 28-year-old guy and work in a multi-national company. I belong to a middle-class family. My problem is related to my ex-girlfriend, T, who was my neighbour, too. I was madly in love with her. T also loved me and I used to go her home quite often in a bid to meet her. Then her family moved to a better locality. I always wanted to marry her so as soon as I got a job, I sent my parents to her house with my proposal. I was 24 then, and T was 22. To my dismay, her parents outrightly refused my proposal. They said that I was not earning well enough to give their daughter a comfortable life. I was very heartbroken. Later, I got a good job in a multinational company.
I am settled now but I still can’t get over her. I try to keep myself occupied, but she is always on my mind. I have come to know that T is still unmarried. I have also come to know that she has rejected many a good proposal. T is 26 now and she is teaching at a school. Guru, I have been trying hard since the past four years to make a new girlfriend but no one has clicked with me yet. I am so confused. T is the only one who has ever touched my heart. I don’t know what to do.
Depressed D
Dear Depressed D,
There is nothing to feel depressed about, young man. I think you should try your luck one more time. Since you are settled now, you must send your parents again to T’s house. Remember that all parents want a secure future for their daughters. When you proposed to her earlier, you were not financially stable and no wonder T’s parents refused your proposal. But this time your chances are bright as you have a substantial standing. The fact that you are still not ready for another relationship indicates that your heart still wants her. Haven’t you noticed that T is single, too. She is still waiting for you but she will never say it as she is one of those girls who can sacrifice their love for their parents. I am sure if her parents agree to your proposal, she won’t object. So, muster some courage and conquer your true love. Good luck!
I am overweight and lack confidence
Dear Guru,
I am a 17-year-old college going girl. My family is quite well off. I really like your unique way of solving teenagers’ problems. Actually, I have two problems: I have weight issue and I lack confidence and they both are interlinked. For instance, if I am on treadmill, I get scared because I may fall down or get hurt. Can you please tell me an easy way to gain confidence and to lose weight? My family is also not very supportive. My father is a busy man whereas my mom is more interested in socialising rather than looking into her children’s matters. I am the youngest in the family. I have two more siblings and they both are involved in their own activities. Guru, I am a depressed teen, I don’t have any real friends. Whenever I feel low, I binge on chocolates. I know this is not good. What should I do?
Neglected Girl
Dear Neglected Girl,
First of all, you need to make up your mind. Make a firm commitment that you will not indulge in unnecessary food. Unless you zip your mouth, you won’t be able to lose weight. If you are scared of treadmill then the best way to lose weight, without any fear, is to walk. You should walk at least 30 minutes a day and gradually you will lose weight. You are young and at your age metabolism works very fast. And besides exercises you need to control your diet and should avoid fatty stuff. Stay away from cold drinks and bakery stuff. When low, instead of eating chocolates, try to divert your mind towards some recreational activity like listening to music or reading a good book. Mind you, losing weight is the first step towards boosting your confidence level. And don’t feel bad about your family. Your parents may be busy people, but they both love you. Look at your plus points – you have a comfortable living and you are getting good education. So, concentrate on your blessings and try to divert yourself from negativity that pulls you into depression.
Good luck!
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