Of fragile relationships

I went to school yesterday. There was some funfair going on, but my teachers had told me that we would have our regular classes When I walked into my class, I found it empty! Turned out that my silly class-fellows neglected to inform me that they weren’t coming to school. Now, I’m a bit of a loner, so I didn’t mind much. I had my books with me, some past papers and my iPod, so I was set for the rest of the day.

 

After bugging a few of my teachers to help me with a few things, I sat on the stairs that led down to the junior block. It’s my favorite place in the whole school. Few people sat there and every once in a while you could see little kids roaming around which is pure entertainment. Only two other girls were sitting on the other side of the stairs a little above me. One of them was friends with a few girls in my class, but I didn’t know her that well. The other was one of the ‘models’, as I like to call them. They can look beautiful without any effort. This girl was the one that I really envied. She was one of the skinniest girls in school and had an almost cadaverous face which is still beautiful (I hope I’m making sense?).

Anyway, the Model was crying and her friend was trying to calm her down. I overheard their conversation and realized that the Model had been dumped by her boyfriend via text message. I could hear her reading the text out to her friend, but I couldn’t make out what she was saying. After a while, her other friends showed up and they went away.

Now, I’ve seen episodes like this all the time but I have no experience at all when it comes to relationships. I was tempted to tell her that if the guy broke up with her on text, then he was a coward and wasn’t worth crying over, but I decided against it. But it really got me thinking: why do people bother with love when there’s a chance it wouldn’t last?

But first, let me clarify: crushes and being in a relationship are two different things. Crushes are fine as you just admire a person. Being in a relationship is just silly. You waste your time, energy and emotions for someone who may or may not be there in the future.

When they do leave, you spend weeks pining over them with a ‘broken heart’. Then, after you’ve gotten rid of all your feelings for that person, you find someone else. And the cycle begins again.

Think about it: why do people get in a relationship? They think it’s cool, they think they’ll never be loved, they want someone who will be there for them every step of the way. Makes sense, doesn’t it? But why do that when you have family and friends who love you and care for you? Why bind yourself to someone who may or may not care about you? Why ruin your reputation? Why listen to people whisper behind your backs, “Did you hear? She’s gotten together with HIM!” “Oh, my gosh, are you serious?” “Yeah, I saw them yesterday on the library stairs!”

People never forget scandals, especially in Pakistan! A few years from now, when you’re happily married and have little kids and a loving spouse, you might meet someone who went to school with you. He or she might be married to your spouse’s best friend. What if they tell? What if your ex shows up again? What will you do then?

I realize that everyone wants to be loved. But is it so hard to wait until you’re older and more mature? Is it so hard to be patient? Please don’t get into relationships! Politely turn away anyone who asks you to be their girlfriend or boyfriend. Don’t worry if everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend. Two wrongs don’t make a right.