I really don't know how to deal with this situation. She is waiting for my decision, and I am quite confed. What should I do?
Should I marry her?
Dear Guru,
I am 27 years old and work in a private organ ination. I belong to a middle-class family. I am quite a good-looking guy and am very popular among my college I have been in love with my cousin, J, for two yours. Jis a nice girl and wey good-looking, I was serious about marrying hand she also has feelings for me. I told my mother that I like her, but my mother said is not suitable for me as a wife because she was abused when she was six years old. Additionally, I work in a school, and I don't want my wife to work alber we get married. My mother thinks women who work tend to neglect their families. I'm having second thoughts about her because, acceding to my mother, everyone in our fam By knows about the incident where a mental yound older cousin of salad be don't want to hunt's feelings, but I'm scared of my family's reaction if I may be. Ofcourse, I could ask her to become a house wife, but would it be fair to her since she was working when I fell in love with her? I really don't know how to deal with this situation. She is waiting for my decision, and I am quite confed. What should I do?
Dear Confused Taurian,
It so you're in a challenging sit tion, tom between your feelings for and the concered by your family. It's important to remember that one's past, especially something beyond their control, does not define their worth or stability as a peter. J's past experience is sathing she had no control over, and it should not be held against her. She was only six at that time and deserve her family's support, sympathy and understanding.
As for her job, teaching is a noble profes sion, and since I works at a school, she would only be away from home for part of the day's important to consider why you don't want her to work after marriage. Wit's due to traditional roles and family expecta tions, reflect on how this align with your own values and your relationship with J. You fell in love with her as she is, which includes her career and independence Asking her to give that up might not only be unfair to her, but it could also lead to resent- ment in the future.
Your family's opinions are important, but so is your happiness and J's. If you're serious about her, talk to your mother and address her concerns, while standing firm in your own beliefs. If you're unsure about how to proceed, take some time to reflect on what you truly want and seek advice from some one you trust.
Ultimately, the decision should be based on what will make you both happy in the long term, rather than fear of judgment or your family's expectations.
Good luck!
Cooking is difficult
Dear Guru,
I am an 18-year-old girl studying at a presti gious college, and I'm engaged with my wed ding just six months away. My concern is that I can't cook. We've always had a maid who handles the cooking at home. In my fiancé's household, women are expected to cook, but cooking is so difficult to learn! I know I'll have to adjust, but I'm worried that my moth er-in-law might think I'm lacking in this area. Could you please suggest something to help me prepare? Bride-to-be
Dear Bride-to-be
It's understandable that you're concerned about making a good impression, especially in a household where cooking is highly val ued, but there's no need to worry-learning to cook can be a fun and rewarding experience.
Begin by learning a few basic recipes that your fiancé and his family enjoy. Focus on mastering a couple of dishes rather than overwhelming yourself with too many at once. You can even ask your maid to teach you. Online cooking tutorials, which offer step-by-step guidance, are helpful, too. Practicing is important for the more you cook, the more confident you'll become. Start with simple recipes and gradually work your way up to more complex dishes. With time and effort, you'll find your rhythm in the kitchen.
Good luck!
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