I keep thinking about it and very often I get a headache. What if they treat me badly? Can you help me in this regard?
Dear Guru,
I am a 20-year-old girl. I am doing BS, and will get married after completing my studies. I belong to a broad-minded family, but my fiancé’s family is rather conservative. I am from a community which does not allow its girls to marry anyone who is not a part of us. My fiancé, R, has done graduation, and that is why my father decided that he would suit me. It is a totally arranged match. My mother-in-law brought R’s proposal, and my father accepted without consulting me. R is a good person and I have known him since we were kids, as he is my father’s second cousin. He is good-looking and kind-hearted. The problem is his mother doesn’t like girls who go out to study, and that is why I am worried. R’s sisters only attended a religious school for girls. I don’t know how I will manage to adjust in this set-up. I keep thinking about it and very often I get a headache. What if they treat me badly? Can you help me in this regard?
Worried Girl
Dear Worried Girl,
First of all, relax. No one will treat you badly if you behave nicely with them. Try to treat your mother-in-law with respect and she will not have reason to be mean with you. You see, if you give your in-laws to-be the impression that you look down upon them because they are not educated, in retaliation they could be rude to you. Instead of judging them on their lack of education, focus on their good qualities and you will do just fine.
Also, since your mother-in-law selected you for her son, chances are she wanted an educated girl for her educated son. Don’t let any negative thoughts disturb your peace of mind and you will get rid of your headache. Look at all the possible pros: the guy is educated, good- looking and kind hearted. Another plus point is you have known him since your childhood, and the same goes for his family members. Be good with him and his family and I am sure they will also be good to you. Best of luck
